TIME FOR CHANGE
September 25, 20092010 is fast approaching and I can hardly wait to leave 2009 behind. 2009 has really been the worst year for me ever. Everything that you thought would go wrong really went wrong. I’ve experienced a lot of betrayals from both friends and a loved one. My kids were sickly this year. Problems with work also surfaced.
I’m almost at the end of my tether. They say misfortune comes in threes but I dare disagree. Misfortune comes always for the whole year. One good thing though came out of this. I found out how tough I can be. Just when I thought I was about to give up, I found another reason to persevere.
I’ve made a list of things that I will be doing starting right now for 2010:
- Settle all obligations and make 2010 debt-free. Yeah, that includes credit cards and such.
- Look for other opportunities. I will start processing papers for abroad. If possible, look for job opportunities abroad that will include kids in the package.
- Spend as much time as possible with my kids. Extend my patience to them. Rear them to become God-fearing.
- Bring the kids to church every Sunday. No excuses needed. I will teach them to put God in the center of their lives.
- I will not lose communication with my friends. I will give them time. The past two weeks made me appreciate how lucky I am to have these friends at my side.
- I will put myself first. It is never right to compromise your feelings for someone else. Always follow your intuition. It rarely is wrong. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
- Learn to let go of things and persons you’ve outgrown.
- Understand that sometimes, love just ain’t it enough and it is never right to settle for anything less.
My life is pretty much a mess right now. I am not ignoring it. I am praying and contemplating that whatever decisions I make will be the right one. I will do what I think is right for me and not what others think is right for me. I believe that I am slowly on my road to recovery.
I will end this article with this poem that I find so helpful to parents:
Child’s Ten Commandments to Parents
by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown
| 1. My hands are small. Please don’t expect perfection whenever I make a bed, draw a picture or throw a ball. My legs are short. Please slow down so that I can keep up with you. 2. My eyes have not seen the world as yours have. Please let me explore safely. Don’t restrict me unnecessarily. 3. Housework will always be there. I’m only little for such a short time. Please take time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and do so willingly. 4. My feelings are tender. Please be sensitive to my needs. Don’t nag me all day long. (You wouldn’t want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness.) Treat me as you would like to be treated. 5. I am a special gift from God. Please treasure me, holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me in a loving manner. 6. I need your encouragement and your praise to grow. Please go easy on the criticism. Remember, you can criticize the things I do without criticizing me. 7. Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself. Permit me to fail so that I can learn from my mistakes. Then someday, I’ll be prepared to make the kind of decisions life requires of me. 8. Please don’t do things over for me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didn’t quite measure up to your expectations. I know it’s hard, but please don’t try to compare me with my brother or my sister. 9. Please don’t be afraid to leave for a weekend together. Kids need vacations from parents, just as parents need vacations from kids. Besides, it’s a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special. 10. Please take me to worship regularly, setting a good example for me to follow |
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Yeah Jing…I have always believed in GOD but sadly, I’m only closer to him when I have problems. If God had been the center of my life like what I have always planned, I wouldn’t be too guilty.
Posted by workingmuhm at September 25, 2009, 9:42 amlife is good..i can relate to your post..ive been there..misfortunes comes in threes, sunod2..me i just lost my job, some friends, and i dont know what next..if you have ym, please add me, thanks..lpierreangelique@yahoo.com
Posted by me at January 30, 2010, 11:57 ami feel for you. 2009 has been a challenge to me but i became stronger because of it. lesson learned: never trust anyone too much. they’d end up breaking your heart. you’d also know who your friends really are when you are down.
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I think that keeping in mind you and your kids’ happiness, you won’t lose track of where you want to end up in this life.
No matter what other people will say, this is your life. You make the decisions to make it work out for the best and I’m happy that God is there to do the rest of the job for you. Don’t worry. If there’s anything I learned from my own mistakes, it’s knowing that God has a way better plan in mind. One day, you’ll see for yourself how much you are truly loved by Him, your kids and your true friends.
mwahugs!
Posted by cheska at September 25, 2009, 9:29 am